Potty Breaks

September 30, 2009
filed under: Emmy, Fall 2009, Matt, Swimming

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Tonight once again we are at Matt’s swim team practice, and all around us at this large humid high school pool we are assaulted by the heat and noise that we know so well.  2 practice groups are in the water, so we have 2 different sets of coaches screaming directions to the kids (at this  stage the age range is probably 9 to 14/15) .  In the other cool down pool we have lessons, so there are a ton of pre-school elementary swimming students here learning to swim.   Now Emmy had a class here this summer, and it is a great program. But that is not where I have a problem.

My problem is boys in the girls bathroom, I have a 4 year old daughter here who would like to use the bathroom with out some 6/7/8 year old perverted boy in the bathroom, especially if she needs some help (after all she’s only been potty trained for a year and a half folks.  But there are always a mess of boys in there getting changed.  There is a BOYS bathroom right next door that they can use, or they can disturb Matt in the locker room (he hate the sight of naked boys running around “Grosse Mom” is what he’s been known to say.  Yes I understand bringing boys into the bathroom, after all I have one and have been through this. But this is a controlled setting, a high school in a pretty decent neighborhood (we are actually looking into moving into this district so Matt can go here), the bathroom is small 4 regular and 1 handicap stalls. A mom can open the door shouting for an errant son easily.  If they are old enough to be potty trained, in swim lessons I think they should be able to dress themselves- or maybe I just expect to much of my kids.  From the age of 7 when Matt first joined swim team he went into the men’s locker room at the local Y (not a great neighborhood but a controlled setting). This was a great way for him to learn to handle himself in the proper manner, and yes I could open the door and  shout for my own errant son.

Basically would you as a woman want a man your own age who you do not know in the bathroom with you (or a man a woman).  I would think not, so why should our young daughters be subjected to this?

 

At Emmy’s new swimming place they have the rule set at not children of the opposite sex over six in the other locker rooms, and an adult needs to be in there with them at all times.  Not ideal, but I definitely do like it better- at least they are addressing the situation.

What Is Wrong With Some People?

September 30, 2009
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Today my mind has been coming back to this article that I read earlier today.  This is the one about the mother in Michigan who was helping out her friends by watching their kids in the morning before school. But some neighbor it seems did not like this and reported this mother to Michigan Department of Human Services, who threatened her with a fine and jail time if she did not stop.  Well being a good law abiding citizen she did stop, thankfully the lawmakers in Michigan seem to be stepping up and they see that in this instance the law was not taking the intent of the actions into consideration.  Yes daycare providers need to be regulated, our children definitely need to be protected.  But this mother was not running a daycare, she was helping out friends, who need to work to support their families.  She was helping to make a rough situation easier than it might have been.  I’m sure that her friends were reciprocating and  watching her children in turn.

Would this neighbor who complained rather that these young children be left alone and potentially really get hurt waiting in the mornings.  Or should these kids spend the time waiting for the bus running through the neighborhood unsupervised creating havoc and possible hurting themselves or a neighbors  property. In this current economy people are slaves to their jobs, especially if they need to keep them.  Not every job or employer is understanding about parents seeing kids off to school.  This neighbor should be helping and not trying to hurt their neighbors.

 

Here is the article:

State to mom: Stop baby-sitting neighbors’ kids

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Lisa Snyder, left, watches kids play at their bus stop, which is also her AP – Lisa Snyder, left, watches kids play at their bus stop, which is also her driveway, Friday, Sept. 25, …

By JAMES PRICHARD, Associated Press Writer James Prichard, Associated Press Writer Tue Sep 29, 7:23 pm ET

IRVING TOWNSHIP, Mich. – Each day before the school bus comes to pick up the neighborhood’s children, Lisa Snyder did a favor for three of her fellow moms, welcoming their children into her home for about an hour before they left for school.

Regulators who oversee child care, however, don’t see it as charity. Days after the start of the new school year, Snyder received a letter from the Michigan Department of Human Services warning her that if she continued, she’d be violating a law aimed at the operators of unlicensed day care centers.

"I was freaked out. I was blown away," she said. "I got on the phone immediately, called my husband, then I called all the girls" — that is, the mothers whose kids she watches — "every one of them."

Snyder’s predicament has led to a debate in Michigan about whether a law that says no one may care for unrelated children in their home for more than four weeks each calendar year unless they are licensed day-care providers needs to be changed. It also has irked parents who say they depend on such friendly offers to help them balance work and family.

On Tuesday, agency Director Ismael Ahmed said good neighbors should be allowed to help each other ensure their children are safe. Gov. Jennifer Granholm instructed Ahmed to work with the state Legislature to change the law, he said.

"Being a good neighbor means helping your neighbors who are in need," Ahmed said in a written statement. "This could be as simple as providing a cup of sugar, monitoring their house while they’re on vacation or making sure their children are safe while they wait for the school bus."

Snyder learned that the agency was responding to a neighbor’s complaint.

Granholm spokeswoman Liz Boyd said the agency was following standard procedure in its response. "But we feel this (law) really gets in the way of common sense," Boyd said.

"We want to protect kids, but the law needs to be reasonable," she said. "When the governor learned of this, she acted quickly and called the director personally to ask him to intervene."

State Rep. Brian Calley, R-Portland, said he was working to draft legislation that would exempt situations like Snyder’s from coverage under Michigan’s current day care regulations.

The bill will make it clear that people who aren’t in business as day care providers don’t need to be licensed, Calley said.

"These are just kids that wait for the bus every morning," he said. "This is not a day care."

Snyder, 35, lives in a rural subdivision in Barry County’s Irving Township about 25 miles southeast of Grand Rapids. Her tidy, comfortable three-bedroom home is a designated school bus stop. The three neighbor children she watched — plus Snyder’s first-grader, Grace — attend school about six miles away in Middleville.

Snyder said she started watching the other children this school year to help her friends; they often baby-sit for each other during evenings and weekends.

After receiving the state agency’s letter, she said she called the agency and tried to explain that she wasn’t running a day care center or accepting money from her friends.

Under state law, no one may care for unrelated children in their home for more than four weeks each calendar year unless they are licensed day-care providers. Snyder said she stopped watching the other children immediately after receiving the letter, which was well within the four-week period.

"I’ve lived in this community for 35 years and everyone I know has done some form of this," said Francie Brummel, 42, who would drop off her second-grade son, Colson, before heading to her job as deputy treasurer of the nearby city of Hastings.

Other moms say they regularly deal with similar situations.

Amy Cowan, 34, of Grosse Pointe Farms, a Detroit suburb, said she often takes turns with her sister, neighbor and friend watching each other’s children.

"The worst part of this whole thing, with the state of the economy … two parents have to work," said Cowan, a corporate sales representative with a 5-year-old son and 11-month-old daughter. "When you throw in the fact that the state is getting involved, it gives women a hard time for going back to work.

"I applaud the lady who takes in her neighbors’ kids while they’re waiting for the bus. She’s enabling her peers to go to work and get a paycheck. The state should be thankful for that."

Amy Maciaszek, 42, of McHenry, Ill., who works in direct sales, said she believes the state agency was "trying to be overprotective."

"I think it does take a village and that’s the best way," said Maciaszek, who has a 6-year-old boy and twin 3-year-old daughters. "Unfortunately you do have to be careful about that. These mothers are trying to do the right thing."

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Associated Press writers Randi Goldberg Berris and David Runk in Detroit and Kathy Barks Hoffman in Lansing, Mich., contributed to this report.

Trombone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

September 29, 2009
filed under: Fall 2009, Matt, Music

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This Saturday for once it is not sports or a trading card game that is taking over the day (or at least a part of the day).

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Matt is trying out for the IMEA music festival later in November.

I think that this is a pretty big deal, since we have always just considered his playing as more of a play thing, a hobby something he did at school and that was it.   Trombone-lego .

This was mainly because I refuse to argue fuss or fight with him to practice, so in fact he does not practice at home, only at school.  Though he is definitely practicing a lot more at school during his study halls getting to know his audition material.

I always expect him to look like this when he’s playing:

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But instead he looks kind of cute, or at least I think so:

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So Saturday he will be playing his trombone in his first ever audition, I have to say that I am very proud of him for sticking with the trombone for the past 4 years. He will likely be playing for as long as he can get away with just practicing at school…… but at least for now he will play……..

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Another Cross Country Day

September 28, 2009
filed under: Cross Country '09, Matt, Music, Uncategorized

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So today Matt had his first Cross Country meet where the weather stunk, it was cold and windy, so unlike the other meets we have had this season.  As usual make it uncomfortable for him and it shows in his performance, he had a horrible race. At least we were able to get home early, though Emmy did not fall asleep on the way home the way I wanted her too.  But so far at least tonight the kids are getting along well enough, she is exhausted so I really do hope she will go down before 11, I know that I will.

Tomorrow is practice for Matt, and I still have a million things to do around here, including several school assignments. There is always something going on here, so at least it is rarely boring.

Not Me! Monday!

September 28, 2009
filed under: Fall 2009, Not Me Monday

Welcome to Not Me! Monday! This blog carnival was created by MckMama. You can head over to her blog to read what she and everyone else have not been doing this week.

 

This week I did not wait till practically the last moment to take my Javascript quiz, and pass it with only 1 wrong answer (I guess I really do know Javascript better than XML ;-))

I did not loose it with the 13 year old, and practically avoid him for most of the weekend, it’s not that he continually showed the normal argumentative, know it all and selfish behavior of a teen boy.

I also did not sleep away 3 hours yesterday, instead of working on the multitude of school work I need to do for this week.

I also am not working on this blog post, instead of the 2 blog posts I need for my school blog that need to be done by class time tomorrow.

I also did not keep the girl child up all throughout boy childs Cross Country meet today, so that she would fall asleep on the ride home and sleep all night. She was tired after her group private lesson today.

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